Therapist LIFE coach
Not Just Therapy But Personal Training For Your Mind
Career and Academic Struggles
Self-doubt & Fear of failure
Need for validation
Why I’m passionate about what I do? It'sPersonal!
My story. I spent a major part of my adult life struggling with negative self-beliefs. One childhood negative message I received was that I am not smart enough. I spent much of the time trying to prove it wrong and proving it right at the same time. I dealt with imposter syndrome and perfectionism which prevented me from accomplishing many goals and aspirations.
Once I became a therapist life coach and worked with a skilled therapist, I was able to identify those roadblocks and their sources. I was successfully able to correct the negative self-beliefs and replace them with accurate and appropriate ones. However, it took a decade for me to accomplish this new mind state. Now I have been trained in a therapy (EMDR) that works faster and more effectively. Less time rehashing repeatedly the past and get to the good stuff sooner. I am very excited about these tools and am eager to share them with you.
Negative messages such as criticism, shaming, belittling, and insults can lead to self-doubt and create a negative self-image. These messages can make an individual feel inferior, unworthy, and inadequate.
Negative messages can create a negative thought pattern that can lead to self-doubt and self-criticism this in turn can lead to a lack of confidence and difficulty in achieving personal goals.
Negative messages from the past may have a significant impact on an individual’s self-esteem as an adult. When someone receives negative messaging during childhood or adolescence, they can internalize those messages and carry them into adulthood.
How Low Self-Esteem Affects You as an Adult
Negative self-belief is a thought pattern that leads individuals to have low self-esteem and a negative perception of themselves. Some common examples of negative self-beliefs include self-doubt, self-criticism, and feelings of inadequacy. Negative self-beliefs often lead to behaviors that reinforce the negative belief, such as avoiding challenges or opportunities for growth.
Low self-esteem may manifest in many other ways as an adult:
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a therapeutic approach that can be used to address negative self-beliefs. Negative self-beliefs can be deeply ingrained and can affect how a person sees themselves, others, and the world around them. EMDR can be an effective tool to help individuals work through these negative self-beliefs and develop more positive beliefs. Research shows EMDR may get quicker results & gets deep into the Unconscious mind correcting negative beliefs.
During EMDR therapy, the therapist guides the individual through a series of eye movements or other bilateral stimulation techniques while the individual focuses on a traumatic memory or negative self-belief. The goal of this process is to desensitize the individual to the negative emotions and beliefs associated with the memory or belief and to reprocess the memory in a more adaptive way.
To address negative self-beliefs specifically, the therapist may ask the individual to identify a specific negative belief that they hold about themselves, such as "I am not good enough" or "I am unlovable." The therapist will then guide the individual through the EMDR process while focusing on this belief, helping the individual to identify any past experiences that may have contributed to the belief and to develop more positive and adaptive beliefs.
It is important to note that EMDR is a complex therapy that should only be performed by a licensed therapist who has been trained in this technique. If you are struggling with negative self-beliefs and are interested in exploring EMDR therapy, it is important to find a qualified therapist who can guide you through this process.